Love you and miss you Papa Bear: Jan 15, 1953- Nov 20,2013
Who was my Papa Bear? Who was the man who put me on his shoulders so I could see the just how high my dreams could reach? Who was the man who wrapped his arms around me so I could know I was loved and that everything would be alright? Who was the man who held me up when the world tried to knock me down? He was my everything, is my everything. He was the reason I clung onto to fight. He was the reason I knew everything would be okay. He was my peace when the world started shaking beneath my feet. Plain and simple..he was my dad. My Papa Bear.
My dad was my joy. When I
had the hardest, longest day. When I was crumpled in tears on the ground, I
knew who to call. The simple “Hey Jess” was enough to bring a smile back to my
face. I knew no matter how broken I felt…in the next few moments I would be
okay. My dad would say the right thing, crack the right joke, just be the man
who he was…and my brokenness would be healed. And I know he will continue to be my joy. When
I have a long day, when I am crumpled on tears on the ground…I won’t have to
call. I will just have to look up to heaven…and I know he will be gazing down
saying “Hey Jess.”
My dad was my motivation.
He shifted from his career in product managing to life coaching right when I made
the decision to switch from veterinary medicine to social work. I saw him
accomplish his dream and get certified. No matter what people said. No matter
if other people didn’t understand. He knew his passion and he followed it. He
didn’t care if it meant less pay, he didn’t care if it meant not being the man
in the fancy suit. He knew it was his passion and he knew it would change
lives…so he did it.
And he knew the same
about me. He knew my passion and love for social work. He didn’t care what
people said about my shift. He didn’t care what the world told me about taking
such a low paying job. He just knew it was my passion and he supported me all
the way. He invested in me, in my dreams and passions. He flew me to Denver to
explore my dream graduate school. He chased away my fears and doubts telling me
to just worry about today. He would always tell me just because of who I was he
knew I would achieve my dreams. And as I pursue my dreams, I know he will be
there. He will be chasing away my fears and filling me with the motivation to
fight for what I want.
My dad was my reason to
fight. He was the rock I leaned on when I wanted to give up. He never told me I
couldn’t win my fight with my eating disorder. Whether it was the first,
second, or the 10th time I went to treatment, he was there cheering
me on. He was there telling me I could do this. Reminding me why I should
fight. Supporting me in the successes and the defeats. Encouraging me,
supporting me, reminding me of the person I was…the person I was meant to
be…the person God made me to be. He had this way of looking into my eyes, past
the disorder, seeing my soul…and in every moment I was with him…making me feel
like I was more than enough. That my soul was precious, that I was beautiful,
that I was his baby girl. That I was something worth fighting for. That my life
mattered…that I should fight. In some of my last conversations with him he told
me to start and end each day with these simple words: “I choose life.” And I
will..I won’t give up. I won’t stop fighting. And every victory I know he will
be there cheering me on. And in every struggle I know he will be there guiding
me to make the right choice. To confidently stand and say I choose life.
My dad was my support. He carried me on his feet across the dance floor of life. No matter the song that played in the background. No matter if it was fear, pain, regret, joy, frustration, stress…no matter what soundtrack life was playing, my dad took my hands, put his feet under mine, and carried me across the dance floor. Whether it was through the right words, right advice, or just the feel of his beard against my face as he held me in a warm embrace….he carried me. He taught me to dance through life. And now he is leaving me to dance on the floor myself, while his spirit carries me. He wrote in one of his last e-mails to me “Once upon a time as a child you flew on your Daddy’s feet as you floated around the gym turned dance floor – it carried us to a different place. Now is the time for you to fly on your own feet, to listen for and dance to the music of the life you are waiting to, longing to, live. I love you with all my heart and soul, and I believe in you,Papa Bear”
I love
you too Papa Bear. And I may not believe in me now. I may not see how I am
going to put one foot in front of the other. How I am going to fight without
you here. But you believed in me. No…you believe in me…and so…I will believe in
myself. I will choose life. I will cherish every moment. And I will fight.
Because I know you are here. In every sunset, every sunrise, every victory,
every struggle, every choice I make…you will be there. You will be there
cheering me on, carrying me, and dancing with me through life.
Be at
peace my father, give Pop Bill and Grandma Ruth a hug for me, cook the best
Thanksgiving meal heaven has ever tasted, show everyone the hidden treasures of
heaven. The waterfalls they never explored, the heights they’ve never climbed
to. Show those angels that you don’t need wings to be good at tennis. Show
everyone that piece of heaven that was in you. And know I will be here
fighting, living, and knowing you are with me. I love you Papa Bear.
Your
brown-eyed girl,
Jess
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