I still need to update you all on my N session which was amazing and scary, but a big thing that came from it is she wants me to stop rationalizing and instead just escape from my brain. Picture a stop sign, then picture my future job as a social worker at an ED clinic, and then picture God or my bro or both there wrapping me in their arms, telling me: "I am here. Everything will be okay." It's worked amazingly as you shall see. I also talk about two behaviors she has changed to ensure I get right nutrients for my body: no cucumbers, minimum cals for exchanges, and measuring meat cooked.
Despirte the struggles, I am happy to say through prayer, journaling, and God's strength I got through these two struggles...so here you go. But this is from in the moment...so may be possible trigger.
Exercise Obsession Exhausts you More than Exercise
I will admit I have realized today just how crazy my obsession with movement is. I am sitting her contemplating doing yoga today even though I don’t feel like it. The problem is I don’t have much to do today, there is nothing to clean, nothing to organize…so I am just sitting around. And to me if I am sitting around then why should I eat? Wouldn’t that mean I need less? We have a family walk planned tonight, but that’s not till tonight and its only 30 minutes. So what about all the food I am eating right now? In my mind sitting around it is just becoming fat. But I know if I go do any activity then it is totally ED and totally would have to do with burning calories. So what am I to do?
Plus there is the yoga problem. I only get to do it three times a week. So if I do it today that’s already twice this week….and that wouldn’t work out so well. I had planned on doing it Thurs and Fri, but then I realized I wouldn’t be able to do it Sat or Sun. Well, I have to do it on Friday because my family is going to the gym, so maybe I could do the other on eon Sat…but then that means I wil have done no activity for two days in a row. At least tomorrow I am out at the barn….that is some activity. I just feel I need to get up and move and do something. Go on a walk, a hike, something. But I feel I am not allowed to because it is ED related. But honestly…sitting around like this can not be healthy.
I am trying to figure out what “normal” people do with their time…how are they not lazy? I know this may be better once my job picks up but right now, today….all I can focus on is how much time I have been spending sitting on my butt not moving. But I already organized my room and the bathroom…unpacked everything….there is literally nothing to do. I could study for the GRE or do latch hook, but again…that is just sitting. And I know pacing around my house isn’t normal at all so I shouldn’t do that. And I’m not approved for walks…but I am going crazy here. My mind is racing and I just can’t justify being this lazy.
Maybe this is when I need to get out that stop sign and just get out of my head. But how do I get out of my head if any activity I do (journaling, latch hook, studying) is all just being more lazy. Seriously…at least on campus I had to walk to dining halls and stuff. I just feel now that I am at home I walk around a lot less….and thus burn less calories…and thus need to eat less. But my meal plan just increased so I don’t get that luxury. I guess I just feel I need to earn my food. That my body needs to be functioning…doing something productive in order for me to eat. But honestly…I am exhausted. Walking tonight will be fun…but right now…just going out for a walk…it would just pacify ED…so I don’t know what to do. I don't want to let other people down...I don't want to "fail" at my new plan on day 2. I want to push through this...I do...I just...I can't justify it...I can't rationalize out of my mind. Where the hell is that stop sign...I just need to get out of my brain.
Well I ended up just organizing a little and then sitting down and doing lunch while latch hooking….eventually the voice settled down. Once my family got home and I spent time with them it really settled. I had to pull on knowing that others believed in me and resisted exercise because I wanted them to be proud...hope one day I can do it just because it's the right thing to do for me. I still feel very guilty, but I am working on understanding I don’t need to be active. Just need to picture stop sign and do it...at least until my mind is safe place to be.
Chicken about Chicken
So yesterday the big struggle of the day was the veggies and not being allowed my safe cucumbers, but honestly today I enjoyed that as I looked at it as a chance to face some veggies I haven’t eaten in a while. But now…well now I am chicken about chicken. I have to measure my meat cooked now…I don’t trust that at all. How am I going to know that 3 oz cook really is portion. When you cook even microwave..you lose .2 oz. So my 3 oz may not have been 4 oz after all. My mind races with what if I have extra calories. Luckily, I have good friends who are having me rephrase is as possibly (not even guaranteed) I am getting more protein which means more muscle. But again…it’s not enough to rationalize. Guess I just have to picture stop sign and picture those girls I am going to help…and God sitting there saying “It’s going to be okay. I am here.” It’s more normal to measure cooked and that’s the hope I want to provide for the people I help in the treatment center. To just trust that the chicken is the right amount…that they need and deserve it. I need and deserve these nutrients….no matter what ED says I need and deserve this. Okay..stress over…man this journaling thing helps. Now..off to eat this chicken...the people I will help in my future deserve it...I deserve it. God is here..I will be okay. This is His gift to me...now it's time to accept this gift.